The 3 Most Common Reasons For Breaking Up

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Ladies and gentlemen, I am Brad Browning, YouTube’s #1 most trusted breakup expert. I’m a Vancouver-based relationship and breakup coach, and I’m the author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide to getting an ex back.

Welcome to this brand new video, in which I’ll be sharing the three most common reasons people decide to end a relationship. If you’ve been dumped recently, then chances are at least one of these 3 things led to your breakup… or at least contributed to your ex’s decision to some degree. I know this because I’ve been a breakup coach for the past 12 years, and I see these three issues arise among my coaching clients on a daily basis.

Before I dive into the first common “Attraction Killer”, there’s one thing you need to be aware of… and that is that, in at least 90% of all breakups, your ex is not going to tell you the truth about their reasons for breaking up. Often, they’ll give you a “partial truth” rather than a blatant lie when they explain their decision… sometimes it’s a subconscious thing on their part, and sometimes it’s completely intentional in an attempt to avoid hurting your feelings. Regardless of the details, just keep in mind that whatever your ex has said was the cause of the breakup, it’s probably not the whole truth… and it could be a downright lie. That means that any of these 3 things I’m about to cover may have contributed to your breakup, even if your ex hasn’t mentioned it specifically.

So, let’s dive straight into the first common reason people break up…

Reason #1: Boredom and complacency.

Pretty much everyone has a desire for fun and excitement. No-one wants to be stuck in the same boring routine forever. Every relationship needs to have some element of fun and excitement… you don’t have to go bungie jumping in the nude every weekend or anything ridiculous like that, but you do need to keep things interesting and avoid being too complacent in any relationship.

Often, when the “spark” fades and the honeymoon phase of your relationship ends… things stop being “new and exciting” for your partner, and neither of your will make any real effort to keep things interesting. Needless to say, this is definitely a big mistake that can lead to breakups. You need to make sure that your partner is having fun and maintains their interest in you and your relationship.

Even the healthiest relationships require some maintenance and work to keep things interesting, so it’s always important to put in the work to keep the spark alive and avoid falling into a boring, passionless routine.

When you think back to the last weeks and months of your time together, do you really think your partner felt that “spark” and excitement that’s necessary to keep things interesting? Or did you both fall into a comfortable routine and let the passion slowly fade away? Be honest with yourself and you may recognize that things just became too dull and routine to keep your ex invested and engaged in the relationship.

Reason #2: Jealousy and/or overly controlling behaviour.

Oh man, if I had a dollar for every time I worked with a coaching client with jealousy issues, I’d probably be recording this video on my private jet…. Because really, this is one of the single biggest issues people have in relationships.

Jealousy is a very natural emotion that affects almost everyone, so don’t beat yourself up if you realize now in hindsight that you were overly jealous in the days and weeks leading up to your breakup. But it is important to recognize when you’re being unreasonable with your jealousy, or letting it affect you to the point where you’re trying to control your partner’s life… managing feelings of jealousy is a critical relationship skill that you need to learn in order to live happily ever after. Jealousy can lead you to be controlling, as I just mentioned, but it’s also just a very unattractive trait in general that screams of insecurity. If you recognize that you were overly jealous or controlling in the past, then that’s something you can easily address and work on to ensure the same problem doesn’t lead to future breakups.

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